I’m probably going to maybe make a few people squirm while reading this (sorry mom/MIL!) But seriously these crazy shifts/protest pop-ups/OT/trainings, etc. I swear we are on the brink of having to schedule a time to be intimate. I mean I’m all about spontaneity-but the 3am wake me ups aren’t as cute as they were when we didn’t have kids and a hectic career, plus animals and the general daily to do’s to keep a house running. 3am? No sir, please go to sleep, maybe you can catch me tomorrow, maybe.
In his defense that used to be a normal thing. No kids... wake up at 3am... go back to sleep for a few hours. Great! Now? I have to be in up 2 hrs, I didn’t get to bed until almost 12 trying to catch up with life (and honestly Schitt’s Creek mostly, how has it taken me this long to finish this series!?) I do not have the energy to do anything, especially be intimate.
Trying to find that balance is hard! We were on the same schedule for a while then his got switched up again, so now, we are back to a quick peck before he runs to work as I am coming home with two littles in tow. I miss my husband! Days off roll around every once in a while, and by then he’s exhausted mentally and physically and isn’t in the mood. I am over here like ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! You woke me up at 3am the other day and now it’s 10, kids are in bed. -Nope- Snoozing away 3 seconds later in the recliner.
I used to work as a clinic nurse, so schedules seem very sterile/routine. Yikes. No thanks. Also, I swear every time we try to be quick during nap time a kid wakes up and ruins any sort of plan, or even better a family member drops by unexpectedly and then we are scrambling around like teenagers.
If our schedules allow we try to get away together even just for a night. Last spring we went on our first trip without our kids and my goodness it was good for our relationship and really it was good for our kids to be away from us for a few days. The days are long but the years are short and we try not to sit idly by as time passes, we want to make the best of our lives and time we have here. It just gets hard in this crazy life sometimes.
I know this is just a season of life and eventually we will get back into our groove but right now I’m feeling pouty about it so this is what you guys get to listen to this great Monday afternoon! In the meantime, until our lives are less hectic, (does that actually happen, probably not..) we take each day as it comes, find time when we can, embrace the crazy/spontaneity (I know I said go away earlier but lets be real if I’m already awake… )
How do you guys find time!? Please send a sister some options.
l Danielle l