Dear Sister Wives,
My heart has been broken by some of the things I’ve been seeing and hearing among us lately. This is not the time for us to get distracted. Our men are on the front-line and they need to be sure we are fully focused and have their six. I’m sure all wives and SO would raise their hand at this point to attest that they do have their partner’s six.
I would bet to defer though. We can’t completely have their six if we are distracted with fighting among st ourselves. Over the last three months, so many Police Wives groups have had ladies leave because of the way were treated. Or they were kicked out of groups because they spoke up or against harsh or hurtful tones.
We need to band together more now than ever. We need to show the country and the world what a real sisterhood looks like. What a Blue Line Sorority should look like. At a time like this, there is no room for jealousy, hate, hypocrisy or bigotry. As sisters, we should be fixing each other’s crown, lifting and supporting each other. At a time like this, a black wife or a woman married to a black officer should not feel condemned in the group she’s a part of. Her sisters should not be using offensive language and terms and not care that it hurt her fellow sisters that don’t look like them.
Being a military wife, I’ve learned a distracted airman is a dead airman. Think about this ladies: Sandra was devastated by the things that were said in the group she’s in. She now feels out of place with nowhere to turn for support; except her husband. She shares all this with him. Next day, he’s at work with your hubby but his attention is partly on Sandra and how she’s doing at home while he’s in this riot. He’s supposed to be spotting your husband but he’s not doing a great job because he’s distracted. Now both men might not make it home.
Can I urge you, if you see something, say something. I spoke up in a group that was racist. One of the admins told me she had removed one of my posts to protect me because the comments were borderline racist. Not once did she ever call out the ladies in the her group about their behavior. Needless to say, I’m no longer in the group.
I had another blue line sister upset because she was told by another sister she would not become anything. She was told the business she was trying to get started was not going to go anywhere. Now this particular incident was not race related.
Again I’ll ask what are we doing fighting among ourselves when we should be banning together to save our LEO from the unfair stipulations, regulations and policies that are coming down the pipelines?
I would love to be able echo the words of Dr. Maya Angelou when she said “I am so glad we have a sisterness about us,” when I refer to our relationship. What about you?
But please, know that when I repeat these words to you that she wrote, I genuinely mean them.
“Sister, open your heart, fling your hopes high and set your dreams aloft. I am here to hold your hand” ~Dr Maya Angelou
I hope and pray anyone who say the same thing would genuinely mean it.
| Kerry-Ann |